CURRENT MOON
moon phase
Sun 4 Caketinsfairies

Caketinsfairies

FLORA FAUNA FEMINISM
Call me: Cake/Caketin Fairy/ Fairycake/ Cupcake
Insta: @caketin_fairy
Sagittarius 🌞 Cap ⬆ Gemini 🌚
27 ~ Naarm - Melbourne
queer femme, pansexual, sex/ body/ sex worker positive
CONSENT ALWAYS
PLEASE PULL ME UP ON MY SHIT

randomslasher:

lunarcanine:

lunarcanine:

Children/teens aren’t allowed to be sad or in a bad mood because they can get yelled at for it and ridiculed and told to ‘change your attitude or I will for you’, while adults who are sad or in a bad mood, are allowed to yell at and take their frustration out on the kids. Adult privilege huh?

And when the adult is in a bad mood, it’s the kids job to step on eggshells in order to keep them from not exploding, and when they do, it’s on them.

And when the child is in the bad mood, it’s their job to try to hide it, and when they break apart trying to, it’s on them.

What extra sucks about this is that adults literally have more experience, context, perspective, and brain development to help them manage emotions. Adults who do this are shit. We are the adults, we should not be expecting kids who are still developing and learning about the world and trying to figure out their place in it to be the ones who are emotionally mature. 

People who treat adulthood like a power trip are honestly shit and should not have authority over kids. 

(via ikanakana)

dare-i-say-asexual:

dare-i-say-asexual:

I was really depressed today and my gf convinced me to go take a bath and then a nap and when I came back out into the main area of our apartment she had cleaned, lit candles, and made me dinner I’m gonna fucking cry I love her so much

I really appreciate how she’s taught me to run through a checklist of what might be wrong when I’m down and I’ve learned to do the same with her. The questions are all super basic but help me a lot like:

- have you eaten recently?

- have you drank water?

- have you done something for your hygiene yet today?

- do you need to take a rest?

- is the space we’re in causing stress in some way? (too dirty, loud, bright, crowded, etc.)

- has something happened or is there a specific emotion you need to acknowledge right now?

- are you putting something off you need to do or a problem you need to solve and can I help you to accomplish/fix it?

Idk just having someone help me assess my feelings and give me space to open up has really made it so i shutdown due to depression/anxiety less and communicate more clearly. It’s really helped us not fight or get frustrated with each other.

(via pseudo-euphoria)

psa

myceliorum:

deducecanoe:

reservoircat:

mountainwhales:

no one fucking tells you this so here it is:

when signing out forms to apply for disability / filling out a form for diagnosis

you’re supposed to fill it out as you on your worst days

like, I filled out forms that said I could do most things usually

like, my doctor added in the conditions like “yeah, they can feed themselves when not stressed” “they can do this when not stressed

but how I should have filled it out was more like

“some days I can’t feed myself” “some days I can’t leave the house”

My doctor didn’t even know this, but I talked to someone who had worked with people with both developmental and intellectual disabilities for a number of years, and she told me to write down how it is for your bad days

this should be a thing they tell you, but it isn’t

part of the reason I didn’t get my autism diagnosis as soon as I should have is because I filled out forms wrong!

This also goes for filling out forms for disabled parking rights. I’ve been rejected multiple times for a pass cause I didn’t find this out till recently.

Wow

Also you’re generally supposed to fill it out as you are without help.

That throws me too.  Because the more help I get, the more capable I get.  It’s easy to forget what happens when the help falls away even partially let alone completely.

(via ikanakana)

fairycosmos:

look. i don’t think my stretch marks are beautiful. i don’t think they’re tiger stripes or natural tattooos. i don’t think my acne is beautiful. i don’t think the bags under my eyes are beautiful. i just think they’re human. and i don’t think i have to be beautiful all of the time in order to be accepted and loved and sucessful. i don’t think every small detail of my outer appearence needs to be translated into prettiness.

(via ikanakana)

epicene-street-light:

epicene-street-light:

ok but can you imagine a worse, more terrifying fate than medusa’s one? just imagine. first of all you’re raped in your goddess’ temple. which, apart from the obvious trauma, means you can’t keep doing what you devoted your entire life to. your goddess gifts you with the ability to turn those you look at into stone and your hair into snakes so that you can defend yourself and be a threat rather than a victim to men. and then?????? a fucking MAN decides hes gonna hunt you down and slaughter you for…. sport like just because he can?????? and not only does he kill you but he keeps your head as a weapon???????? effectively using you and your body for his own purpose exactly like your rapist??????????????? like??? and this man is considered a hero while you’ll be remembered as a monstruous, dangerous entity???????????????????? medusa deserved better smh

wow the medusa avenging squad rly is there!!! make some noise ladies

(via atomiclesbian)

dbdspirit:
“ In response to the NSFW ban being enacted by Tumblr Staff, on December 17th 2018 I propose that we all log off of our Tumblr accounts for 24 hours.  The lack of respect and communication between staff and users is stark. Users have been...

dbdspirit:

In response to the NSFW ban being enacted by Tumblr Staff, on December 17th 2018 I propose that we all log off of our Tumblr accounts for 24 hours. 


The lack of respect and communication between staff and users is stark. Users have been begging staff to delete the porn bot outbreak, which has plagued the website for well over a year. The porn bots oftentimes send people asks and messages, trying to get them to go to a website full of viruses. They also spam advertisements on others posts.  

Users have also begged that Tumblr ban neo-nazis, child porn, and pedophiles, all which run rampant on the site. The site/app got so bad that it was taken off the app store.

However, instead of answering the users, Tumblr has instead taken the liberty to ban all NSFW content, regardless of age. But users have already run into issues of their SFW content being marked as sensitive and being flagged as NSFW, not allowing them to share their work.

Not only does this discriminate again content creators, but it also discriminates against sex workers. Disgustingly, the ban will be enacted on December 17 which is also International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers.

This ban is disgusting, and while I (and plenty of others) welcome porn bots and child porn being banned, the Tumblr filtration system is broken. It tags artistic work’s nipples as NSFW (when it is art), it tags SFW art as NSFW (when it is not), and does not stop the porn bots, neo-nazis and dozens of other issues.


This ban is discriminatory. This ban is ineffective. This ban is unacceptable. 


To protest, log off of your Tumblr account for the entirety of November 17th. Log off at 12 am EST or 9PM PST and stay off for 24 hours. Don’t post. Don’t log on. Don’t even visit the website. Don’t give them that sweet ad revenue. 

Tumblr’s stock has already taken a hard hit. Let’s make it tank. Maybe then they will listen to the users. 


Reblog to signal boost! We must force change.

(via ikanakana)

canaries:

it’s important for lgbt characters to be the main character and gay relationships to be the main relationship. when all the content lgbt people receive is background characters and barely mentioned side relationships it makes lgbt people seem like background people, like side characters. lgbt people deserve to be the hero of their stories and our media needs to reflect that. in this essay i will

(via ikanakana)